Can I afford divorce? Find out in a pre-divorce consult

One hour could change your life. For those in unhappy, unsuccessful, or harmful marriages, a lot of time can be spent wondering what life would look like outside of relentless negativity that can bend one’s soul to the breaking place. As potential divorcees approach the decision, they often consider whether the post-divorce lifestyle compromises would be worth the tradeoffs. They may think, “Can I afford divorce?” That’s where Kathryn Wayne-Spindler’s Pre-Divorce Consult comes in. Although the Milford law office offers free initial consultations, they are not meant to get into the meat of an individual divorce. “A free consultation allows Continue Reading…

Lying and the Law

A recent National Geographic article, “Why We Lie,” by Yudhijit Bhattacharjee investigates the science behind lying. Since the topic of truth and honesty is central to the legal system, we at Kathryn Wayne-Spindler & Associates decided to look at three ways that all of us can encourage honesty in life and in law. But first, a look at why people lie. Motivations for lying The NG article details how and when humans learn to lie and the reasons for deception. If we’re going to have a chance at curbing untruths in life and law, it’s important for us to understand Continue Reading…

Workplace of the Future

Trends in Small Business Employee Satisfaction With the increasing popularity of telecommuting, some positive aspects of workplace culture are getting lost according a Colliers International a global workplace trend report titled, “5 Shifts Companies Must Make in the Next 5 Years” As employers look to the future, they will need to be more cognizant of encouraging employees to “want” to work in the office rather than doing so just because the boss says so. Employers will need to play up the benefits of office time like increased collaboration, mentoring, skill-building and incentives for task completion. These rewards will need to Continue Reading…

Renewing the fine in “Fine.”

“How are you?” “Fine.” “You?” “Good. Good. Thanks.”   We’ve all heard this common exchange. It’s so engrained in our culture that we don’t even give our piece of the script a second thought. If fact, many people have experienced the situation where Person #2 provided the anticipated response even after Person #1 changed up the question. The responses, “Fine” and “Good” have lost their meaning. We are so used to covering up negative emotions and providing a stoic face to the world that we might not even realize how close to the surface our hurt, anger and fear are. Continue Reading…

Microchipping and Family Law Implications

A Look at the Future Recently, a company in Wisconsin offered voluntary micro-chipping to employees. And about 40 workers went for it. According to USA Today, “In one of the oddest corporate ceremonies we’ve heard of, a tattoo artist inserted rice-sized microchips into the hands of employees at Three Square Market, a Wisconsin firm that makes cafeteria kiosks to replace vending machines. The point: convenience. Chipped employees can bypass key fobs and badges and corporate log-ons to computers.” “We foresee the use of RFID technology to drive everything from making purchases in our office break room market, opening doors, use of copy Continue Reading…

What NOT to Wear to Court

Kathryn Wayne-Spindler has been practicing Family Law for more than 20 years and has seen some notable outfits in the courtroom hallways. Through two decades of Southeastern Michigan law practice, she has developed some tips for clients seeking to make their best impression on court day. What follows here is a catalog of clothing foibles and follies to avoid for your court date. Scroll to the bottom for advice about what you SHOULD wear to court. Look Your Best? Although we tell clients to “look their best,” that doesn’t mean top hat and tails. Kathy remembers a time she suggested that Continue Reading…

What NOT to Bring to Court

Here’s a guide to items prohibited in local courts CHILDREN (yes, even the really cute ones) Unless otherwise advised by your attorney, DO NOT bring children to court for family law matters. If ever there was a time for finding a babysitter, a court appointment qualifies near the top of the list. This restriction is for their welfare, your peace of mind and out of respect for the seriousness of court proceedings. Children may be: Disruptive Distracting to the parents Exposed to mature, provocative, controversial or inappropriate topics in your case or overheard in other cases discussed in courtrooms or Continue Reading…

Adoption Process 101: The Basics

One of the most enjoyable aspects of family law is the chance to bring together loving parents with children who need them. For many, the journey to become adoptive parents stems from infertility. For others, the choice is one made out of a generous desire to provide stable care for especially medically or emotionally-challenged young people. Some start by fostering while others adopt relatives or stepchildren who can benefit from the constancy of caring parents. Whatever the path to adoption, it is a joyous part of the family law practice and we are pleased to be able to help people grow Continue Reading…

ABCs of JODs: A Guide to Family Law Acronyms

As with any profession, law has its share of abbreviations and acronyms. Sometimes as law professionals, we see them so often it’s easy to forget that not everyone knows what DM or EIC stands for. So we figured we would share a glossary of a few of the more commonly used family law acronyms. ADR – Alternative Dispute Resolution This includes mediation, collaborative divorce and any other non-litigious means of resolving family law disputes. Δ – Defendant This one would not be used in official paperwork but a client could potentially come across it in an attorney’s handwritten notes or Continue Reading…

Court Date Smartphone Withdrawal

Here’s the scenario… Your divorce has been in the works for months. As the day of your court appearance nears, you experience intense and mixed emotions that might include relief, vengeance, regret, guilt, fear, elation, or a thousand others that are normal as you approach a big life change. In response you turn to friends across the country for comfort. You search social media for connections to replace your loss. Some nights when worries crowd out dreams, you reach for a mindless game to give your brain a break. Add to that a near constant exchange of emails with your Continue Reading…