Renewing the fine in “Fine.”

“How are you?” “Fine.” “You?” “Good. Good. Thanks.”   We’ve all heard this common exchange. It’s so engrained in our culture that we don’t even give our piece of the script a second thought. If fact, many people have experienced the situation where Person #2 provided the anticipated response even after Person #1 changed up the question. The responses, “Fine” and “Good” have lost their meaning. We are so used to covering up negative emotions and providing a stoic face to the world that we might not even realize how close to the surface our hurt, anger and fear are. Continue Reading…

Microchipping and Family Law Implications

A Look at the Future Recently, a company in Wisconsin offered voluntary micro-chipping to employees. And about 40 workers went for it. According to USA Today, “In one of the oddest corporate ceremonies we’ve heard of, a tattoo artist inserted rice-sized microchips into the hands of employees at Three Square Market, a Wisconsin firm that makes cafeteria kiosks to replace vending machines. The point: convenience. Chipped employees can bypass key fobs and badges and corporate log-ons to computers.” “We foresee the use of RFID technology to drive everything from making purchases in our office break room market, opening doors, use of copy Continue Reading…

What NOT to Wear to Court

Kathryn Wayne-Spindler has been practicing Family Law for more than 20 years and has seen some notable outfits in the courtroom hallways. Through two decades of Southeastern Michigan law practice, she has developed some tips for clients seeking to make their best impression on court day. What follows here is a catalog of clothing foibles and follies to avoid for your court date. Scroll to the bottom for advice about what you SHOULD wear to court. Look Your Best? Although we tell clients to “look their best,” that doesn’t mean top hat and tails. Kathy remembers a time she suggested that Continue Reading…

What NOT to Bring to Court

Here’s a guide to items prohibited in local courts CHILDREN (yes, even the really cute ones) Unless otherwise advised by your attorney, DO NOT bring children to court for family law matters. If ever there was a time for finding a babysitter, a court appointment qualifies near the top of the list. This restriction is for their welfare, your peace of mind and out of respect for the seriousness of court proceedings. Children may be: Disruptive Distracting to the parents Exposed to mature, provocative, controversial or inappropriate topics in your case or overheard in other cases discussed in courtrooms or Continue Reading…

Adoption Process 101: The Basics

One of the most enjoyable aspects of family law is the chance to bring together loving parents with children who need them. For many, the journey to become adoptive parents stems from infertility. For others, the choice is one made out of a generous desire to provide stable care for especially medically or emotionally-challenged young people. Some start by fostering while others adopt relatives or stepchildren who can benefit from the constancy of caring parents. Whatever the path to adoption, it is a joyous part of the family law practice and we are pleased to be able to help people grow Continue Reading…

ABCs of JODs: A Guide to Family Law Acronyms

As with any profession, law has its share of abbreviations and acronyms. Sometimes as law professionals, we see them so often it’s easy to forget that not everyone knows what DM or EIC stands for. So we figured we would share a glossary of a few of the more commonly used family law acronyms. ADR – Alternative Dispute Resolution This includes mediation, collaborative divorce and any other non-litigious means of resolving family law disputes. Δ – Defendant This one would not be used in official paperwork but a client could potentially come across it in an attorney’s handwritten notes or Continue Reading…

Court Date Smartphone Withdrawal

Here’s the scenario… Your divorce has been in the works for months. As the day of your court appearance nears, you experience intense and mixed emotions that might include relief, vengeance, regret, guilt, fear, elation, or a thousand others that are normal as you approach a big life change. In response you turn to friends across the country for comfort. You search social media for connections to replace your loss. Some nights when worries crowd out dreams, you reach for a mindless game to give your brain a break. Add to that a near constant exchange of emails with your Continue Reading…

New for Co-Parents: Online Parenting Classes Now Available

Online Co-Parenting Classes May Satisfy Court Requirements There are online college degrees and virtual SAT tutoring so why not on online parenting classes? The digital age has given divorcing parents a solution to the difficulty of fitting court-ordered co-parenting classes into an already over-scheduled co-parenting life. Even if you are not required to do a co-parenting class by court order, it is a great idea to learn new techniques to parent together in difficult situations. Online parenting class providers include: Course for Parents Online Parent Class Online Parenting Programs Each online parenting class provider has a different programs and costs. Continue Reading…

Take Advantage of Housing Drought

The time is right for divorcing/divorced couples to take advantage of what has been called the “worst housing drought ever” to get top dollar from their home sales. According to a blog posted by local realtor Norm Werner in Real Estate News from the Milford Team, “The number of homes for sale is at the lowest level on record, according to the National Association of REALTORS, who began tracking inventory 18 years ago.” The low inventory could mean quick sales and bidding wars resulting in more equity for the seller. Norm Werner reported in a recent Huron Valley Chamber Networking Continue Reading…

Applying Sales Strategies to Legal Negotiations

The five P’s of Successful Legal Negotiations The Huron Valley Networking group recently discussed an article about five tenets of good sales negotiations called, “The five P’s of good negotiation” adapted from “Negotiating with Backbone” by Reed Holden. It contained positive advice for negotiating business deals. The tips apply in legal negotiations too. Prepare As with a sales call, a legal case depends on knowing what each side has, wants and (more importantly) needs. Successful lawyers design achievable settlements based on thorough discovery. “I never skimp on research,” says successful Washtenaw County Family Lawyer Kathryn Wayne-Spindler. And for anyone who has seen Continue Reading…