Does Fault Matter?

A recent Institute of Continuing Legal Education seminar titled, “Fault: Does it Ever Really Matter?” by Jade J. Edwards reviews the aspects of a divorce that can be influenced by determining fault. In the ICLE materials, Edwards wrote, “Michigan is a “no fault” divorce state. This simply means that a party can get a divorce regardless of fault. However, this does not mean that fault doesn’t matter at all.” Does Fault Matter in Child Custody? The primary premise of child custody and visitation is to provide for the best interests of the child after divorce. It is further assumed, unless Continue Reading…

Children Increase Marital Stability

So, does having lots of children increase marital stability? Yes and no. Statistics have shown that the optimal number of children to experience increased marital stability is between one and four. Childless couples and those with 5 or more children are more likely to divorce according to statistics. For families with more than four children, divorce risk increases. There are many reasons: “As we expected,” said Tim B. Heaton, associate professor of sociology at BYU, “there is increased stability in a marriage following the arrival of children. But the stabilizing force of children is greatest when the family size is not Continue Reading…

Birth Order and Divorce Risk: Is there a link?

Does the Know-it-All big sis have a greater risk of getting divorced than the fun-loving youngest? How about a marriage between two middle children? Is there a birth order and divorce link? Psychologists often point to peculiar birth-order traits that help explain how some siblings’ personalities and relationships are shaped by the order in which they came into the family. Obviously, birth order studies are not an exact science. But there are enough commonalities that it’s worth a look into how birth order may impact adult relationships – including marriage and divorce. First, here are some typical characteristics of each sibling according Continue Reading…

Lawyer Explains Divorce Initiation

Kathryn Wayne-Spindler Answers Question about Divorce Initiation Commerce Township Divorce Lawyer Kathryn Wayne-Spindler explains the Divorce Initiation Process for a West Oakland County Spinal Column Newsweekly Ask An Attorney feature Q: My wife and I have been arguing for years. We’ve tried couples therapy off-and-on. It’s not working and I’m fed up. I need to know how about divorce initiation. What do I do? A: I’m sorry to hear that your marriage has broken down. Even though it’s my job to help people dissolve relationships, I know it’s painful for couples to come to the decision to divorce. Let me say Continue Reading…

Haggard Husband: Considering Divorce

Companion article to “Walkaway Wife: Wants Divorce“ The Haggard Husband is the much-maligned, often underappreciated and misunderstood partner to the Walkaway Wife who may be dissatisfied with marriage and considering divorce. He is worn down by the Walkaway Wife’s frequent demands for emotional attention. He is haggard because of the incessant nagging and relationship game-playing. He feels he is doing his best but not receiving the appreciation he deserves. From his perspective, he may not be getting what he bargained for when he married his sweet, generous bride. And so it is no surprise that the Haggard Husband may be considering Continue Reading…

Walkaway Wife: Wants Divorce

Companion Article to “The Haggard Husband: Considering Divorce“ “In my many years as a divorce attorney, several relationship patterns play out repeatedly including the path of the Walkaway Wife who wants divorce,” says South Lyon Divorce Attorney Kathryn Wayne-Spindler. The attorneys of Kathryn Wayne-Spindler & Associates see the typical marriage-ending patterns of infidelity, drug abuse, and financial struggles that wreak havoc on marriages. But a less obvious pattern – labeled as Walkaway Wife Syndrome – is also quite common. The term Walkaway Wife Syndrome was made popular by marriage counselor, Michele Weiner-Davis MSW. She explains the process of emotional-breakdown that some Continue Reading…

Summertime Custody Considerations Should Include Best Interests Factors

Memorial Weekend and high-school graduations mark the start of summertime in Michigan. For many working parents, not much changes with the new season other than the weather. But for many lucky kids, summertime in Michigan might mean camps and S’mores, hiking trips Up North, sleepovers and softball games. For divorced families, all these activities can bring scheduling conflicts, parenting time questions and summertime custody considerations. “We handle a lot of parenting time conflicts at the start of summer because kids’ activities tend to be more spontaneous this time of the year,” says experienced South Lyon Child Custody Attorney Kathryn Wayne-Spindler. “When Continue Reading…

Low Cost Divorce on a Budget

Save big bucks by keeping it civil There are entire sections of bookstores devoted to weddings on a budget. The advice ranges from baking your own cake to borrowing a dress. Everybody knows that modern American weddings are not cheap. “Couples that live in Milford, MI Zip Code 48381 spend between $23,045 and $38,408 on average for their wedding,” according to Cost of Wedding website. That said, not everyone has that kind of money for a ceremony and reception so brides and grooms are getting creative about making it happen with limited funds. It only stands to reason then, that many of Continue Reading…

Thinking of Divorce? You’re Not Alone this Time of Year

While kids are counting down the number of school days left before summer, some parents are counting the days for another reason – filing for divorce. When you think about it, there are at least three good reasons that June is a good time to file for divorce. 1 – Kids have the summer to adjust Some parents have been waiting until school finishes to file for divorce and tell the kids. Some people don’t have a choice because of finances or abuse but those who do may find the transition to be smoother by waiting until the kids are Continue Reading…

Social Media Evidence Impacts Divorce Cases

Kathryn Wayne-Spindler recently responded to a question regarding the impact of social media evidence on family law cases in the Oakland County SpinalColumn Newsweekly. Social Media Evidence and Divorce Q: My wife and I are in the process of divorcing. I was checking her Facebook page the other day and noticed a one-year “anniversary” photo post of her at a restaurant with a man’s arm around her shoulders. The status read, “NOW I’ve had the time of my life.” I know that proving infidelity can impact the divorce settlement so I am starting to search for other evidence of an affair. Continue Reading…