Children Increase Marital Stability

So, does having lots of children increase marital stability? Yes and no. Statistics have shown that the optimal number of children to experience increased marital stability is between one and four. Childless couples and those with 5 or more children are more likely to divorce according to statistics. For families with more than four children, divorce risk increases. There are many reasons: “As we expected,” said Tim B. Heaton, associate professor of sociology at BYU, “there is increased stability in a marriage following the arrival of children. But the stabilizing force of children is greatest when the family size is not Continue Reading…

Birth Order and Divorce Risk: Is there a link?

Does the Know-it-All big sis have a greater risk of getting divorced than the fun-loving youngest? How about a marriage between two middle children? Is there a birth order and divorce link? Psychologists often point to peculiar birth-order traits that help explain how some siblings’ personalities and relationships are shaped by the order in which they came into the family. Obviously, birth order studies are not an exact science. But there are enough commonalities that it’s worth a look into how birth order may impact adult relationships – including marriage and divorce. First, here are some typical characteristics of each sibling according Continue Reading…

Future of Marriage: What Does it Look Like?

What will the Marriage of the Future look like? Renewable short-term marriage contracts? Mandatory Prenups? Long-term long-distance Marriage? Tri-Parent Families? People are pondering the Future of Marriage. Will it even still exist in 50 years? If so, will it resemble the marriage that is familiar to current generations? “The marriage apocalypse may be coming. Talk to any millennial and you can envision an America virtually marriage-free, with everyone happily single,” writes Carol Costello in her blog, “Ready for the Marriage Apocalypse?” “Right now, about 40% of Americans think marriage is obsolete as a concept. They are not sure it is Continue Reading…

Illusion of Happiness Can Cause Divorce

When the proverbial marital grass looks greener on the other side of the page Social Media – can’t live with it – can’t live without it. And apparently we can’t live with it and with our spouses. In yet another way that Facebook is changing lives, the Illusion of Happiness is implicated in breaking up marriages. What is the Illusion of Happiness? The Illusion of Happiness is the altered state-of-mind that results from an over-exposure to the relentless positivity of Facebook and other social media sites. It has been shown to impact frequent users’ ability to accurately assess their own emotional state. Continue Reading…

Lawyer Explains Divorce Initiation

Kathryn Wayne-Spindler Answers Question about Divorce Initiation Commerce Township Divorce Lawyer Kathryn Wayne-Spindler explains the Divorce Initiation Process for a West Oakland County Spinal Column Newsweekly Ask An Attorney feature Q: My wife and I have been arguing for years. We’ve tried couples therapy off-and-on. It’s not working and I’m fed up. I need to know how about divorce initiation. What do I do? A: I’m sorry to hear that your marriage has broken down. Even though it’s my job to help people dissolve relationships, I know it’s painful for couples to come to the decision to divorce. Let me say Continue Reading…

Haggard Husband: Considering Divorce

Companion article to “Walkaway Wife: Wants Divorce“ The Haggard Husband is the much-maligned, often underappreciated and misunderstood partner to the Walkaway Wife who may be dissatisfied with marriage and considering divorce. He is worn down by the Walkaway Wife’s frequent demands for emotional attention. He is haggard because of the incessant nagging and relationship game-playing. He feels he is doing his best but not receiving the appreciation he deserves. From his perspective, he may not be getting what he bargained for when he married his sweet, generous bride. And so it is no surprise that the Haggard Husband may be considering Continue Reading…

Walkaway Wife: Wants Divorce

Companion Article to “The Haggard Husband: Considering Divorce“ “In my many years as a divorce attorney, several relationship patterns play out repeatedly including the path of the Walkaway Wife who wants divorce,” says South Lyon Divorce Attorney Kathryn Wayne-Spindler. The attorneys of Kathryn Wayne-Spindler & Associates see the typical marriage-ending patterns of infidelity, drug abuse, and financial struggles that wreak havoc on marriages. But a less obvious pattern – labeled as Walkaway Wife Syndrome – is also quite common. The term Walkaway Wife Syndrome was made popular by marriage counselor, Michele Weiner-Davis MSW. She explains the process of emotional-breakdown that some Continue Reading…

Low Cost Divorce on a Budget

Save big bucks by keeping it civil There are entire sections of bookstores devoted to weddings on a budget. The advice ranges from baking your own cake to borrowing a dress. Everybody knows that modern American weddings are not cheap. “Couples that live in Milford, MI Zip Code 48381 spend between $23,045 and $38,408 on average for their wedding,” according to Cost of Wedding website. That said, not everyone has that kind of money for a ceremony and reception so brides and grooms are getting creative about making it happen with limited funds. It only stands to reason then, that many of Continue Reading…

Is Affair Proof Marriage Possible?

In cruising for blog topics this week, we at Kathryn Wayne-Spindler & Associates came across this headline in People.com “How Amy (Duggar) King and Husband Dillon King Are ‘Affair-Proofing’ Their Marriage – and Why They Don’t Want Kids … Yet” In the article, newlyweds Amy and Dillon of 19 Kids and Counting fame, talk about their wedding, honeymoon and hopes for their new life together. “It’s having fun and leaning on her faith that makes Amy feel she and Dillon will stand the test of time. ‘I think when you talk about the Lord together you become closer as a Continue Reading…