New for Co-Parents: Online Parenting Classes Now Available

Online Co-Parenting Classes May Satisfy Court Requirements There are online college degrees and virtual SAT tutoring so why not on online parenting classes? The digital age has given divorcing parents a solution to the difficulty of fitting court-ordered co-parenting classes into an already over-scheduled co-parenting life. Even if you are not required to do a co-parenting class by court order, it is a great idea to learn new techniques to parent together in difficult situations. Online parenting class providers include: Course for Parents Online Parent Class Online Parenting Programs Each online parenting class provider has a different programs and costs. Continue Reading…

Future of Marriage: What Does it Look Like?

What will the Marriage of the Future look like? Renewable short-term marriage contracts? Mandatory Prenups? Long-term long-distance Marriage? Tri-Parent Families? People are pondering the Future of Marriage. Will it even still exist in 50 years? If so, will it resemble the marriage that is familiar to current generations? “The marriage apocalypse may be coming. Talk to any millennial and you can envision an America virtually marriage-free, with everyone happily single,” writes Carol Costello in her blog, “Ready for the Marriage Apocalypse?” “Right now, about 40% of Americans think marriage is obsolete as a concept. They are not sure it is Continue Reading…

Grandparenting Time Allowed Under Michigan Law

In Michigan, grandparents have the right to seek Grandparenting Time with grandkids after the parents’ divorce, legal separation or annulment if two very specific conditions are met, according to Michigan Legislature. Guidelines for Grandparenting Time Eligibility Number One – The Grandparent is only eligible for visitation time if he or she cannot have access to the grandchildren during his or her child’s custody time. To clarify, we’ll establish a common scenario using generic names. So let’s say the Grandparents are Arthur and Beatrice. Their child, Thomas, has a daughter, Anne. Arthur and Beatrice can only seek Grandparenting Time with Anne if Thomas is Continue Reading…

Embrace the Disneyland Dad (or Mom)

Disclaimer: Let us just say up front that we at Kathryn Wayne-Spindler & Associates know that the original term Disneyland Dad is sexist and cliché. We know moms are just as prone to spoiling their kids as dads. So for the purposes of the blog to follow let’s just be clear that we are not making a comment about the parenting priorities of an entire gender. The label simply rolls off the tongue better than “Unnamed Theme Park Parent of Unspecified Gender.” We have seen enough co-parent clients come through our office to know that all mothers and fathers, come Continue Reading…

Tips for Successful Parenting Coordination Process

The Parenting Coordination Process is a mediation arrangement where co-parents work with a coordinator to resolve child-custody related matters. QUESTION: Which parenting scenarios might be prime for Parenting Coordination Process? A: A parent is consistently late for child visitation exchanges. The parents repeatedly fight and return to court over drop-off and pickup arrangements. B: Ex-spouses disagree about a child’s mental health treatment plan. There is regular conflict regarding medications, supplements, vitamins, diet and exercise. C: A parent has a new job and wants a permanent, one-time alteration to the visitation schedule. D: Both parents generally work well together but dispute Continue Reading…

Children of Parental Alienation Suffer as Adults

As incidences of Parental Alienation Syndrome increase, therapy professionals are looking at the long-term impacts on the children of high-conflict divorces. Children of Parental Alienation Suffer Later in Life According to Edward Kruk, Ph.D., “Psychiatrist Richard Gardner developed the concept of “parental alienation syndrome” 20 years ago.” Now, decades later, the children identified as being the subjects of Parental Alienation are becoming young adults and encountering difficulties in the own marriages and parenting relationships. It manifests itself in narcissistic behaviors, addictions, and difficulty co-parenting. The term Parental Alienation is used to describe a perpetual pattern of one parent brainwashing the Continue Reading…

Parenting Coordination Program Resolves Disputes

Parenting Coordination Program helps high-conflict co-parents resolve disputes out of court When divorced couples are having a hard time co-parenting, sometimes a Parenting Coordination Program can help. Commerce Township Family Lawyer Kathryn Wayne-Spindler has more than 20 years of experience as an attorney helping high-conflict divorce clients. She believes that a Parenting Coordination Program has great benefits to the children who may be suffering because of divorced parents who are always fighting. “The divorce and custody process may separate the parents,” says Wayne-Spindler, “but the children are still impacted by the ongoing fighting. They need someone to advocate for them when both parents are Continue Reading…

Pitfalls of Divorced Parenting Teenagers

Fourth in a series blogs about Children coping with Divorce. Prior blogs include: The Positive Side of Pre-Teen Smartphone Use; Pets Help Children Cope With Divorce; and Helping Toddlers Cope With Divorce. An easy pitfall for divorced parents of teens is depending too heavily on the oldest child to fulfill the household and family roles of the former mate. Psychologists recommend strongly against making your teenage child the new Man or Woman of the House. In two-parent households, each adult shoulders certain responsibilities. In some families, the pre-divorce roles followed the traditions of wife cooking, cleaning, shopping and taking care of Continue Reading…

Paternity 2.0

Modernizing the Paternity Battle:  The Revocation of Paternity Act Posted on behalf of Kathryn Wayne-Spindler & Associates in Child Custody on Dec. 2, 2014. The age of public infidelity, DNA testing and Maury Povich, have brought to light the antiquity of former paternity assumptions and laws.  Michigan’s 2012 Revocation of Paternity Act (RPA) modernizes the process for a man to legally claim paternity of a child. In 2012, Gov. Snyder made the RPA a law.  Until that point, the courts based paternity on presumption and unreliable “proof.”  The RPA gives men, who believe they have fathered a child, the right Continue Reading…