Does Fault Matter?

A recent Institute of Continuing Legal Education seminar titled, “Fault: Does it Ever Really Matter?” by Jade J. Edwards reviews the aspects of a divorce that can be influenced by determining fault. In the ICLE materials, Edwards wrote, “Michigan is a “no fault” divorce state. This simply means that a party can get a divorce regardless of fault. However, this does not mean that fault doesn’t matter at all.” Does Fault Matter in Child Custody? The primary premise of child custody and visitation is to provide for the best interests of the child after divorce. It is further assumed, unless Continue Reading…

Birth Order and Divorce Risk: Is there a link?

Does the Know-it-All big sis have a greater risk of getting divorced than the fun-loving youngest? How about a marriage between two middle children? Is there a birth order and divorce link? Psychologists often point to peculiar birth-order traits that help explain how some siblings’ personalities and relationships are shaped by the order in which they came into the family. Obviously, birth order studies are not an exact science. But there are enough commonalities that it’s worth a look into how birth order may impact adult relationships – including marriage and divorce. First, here are some typical characteristics of each sibling according Continue Reading…

Future of Marriage: What Does it Look Like?

What will the Marriage of the Future look like? Renewable short-term marriage contracts? Mandatory Prenups? Long-term long-distance Marriage? Tri-Parent Families? People are pondering the Future of Marriage. Will it even still exist in 50 years? If so, will it resemble the marriage that is familiar to current generations? “The marriage apocalypse may be coming. Talk to any millennial and you can envision an America virtually marriage-free, with everyone happily single,” writes Carol Costello in her blog, “Ready for the Marriage Apocalypse?” “Right now, about 40% of Americans think marriage is obsolete as a concept. They are not sure it is Continue Reading…

Lawyer Explains Divorce Initiation

Kathryn Wayne-Spindler Answers Question about Divorce Initiation Commerce Township Divorce Lawyer Kathryn Wayne-Spindler explains the Divorce Initiation Process for a West Oakland County Spinal Column Newsweekly Ask An Attorney feature Q: My wife and I have been arguing for years. We’ve tried couples therapy off-and-on. It’s not working and I’m fed up. I need to know how about divorce initiation. What do I do? A: I’m sorry to hear that your marriage has broken down. Even though it’s my job to help people dissolve relationships, I know it’s painful for couples to come to the decision to divorce. Let me say Continue Reading…

Haggard Husband: Considering Divorce

Companion article to “Walkaway Wife: Wants Divorce“ The Haggard Husband is the much-maligned, often underappreciated and misunderstood partner to the Walkaway Wife who may be dissatisfied with marriage and considering divorce. He is worn down by the Walkaway Wife’s frequent demands for emotional attention. He is haggard because of the incessant nagging and relationship game-playing. He feels he is doing his best but not receiving the appreciation he deserves. From his perspective, he may not be getting what he bargained for when he married his sweet, generous bride. And so it is no surprise that the Haggard Husband may be considering Continue Reading…

Walkaway Wife: Wants Divorce

Companion Article to “The Haggard Husband: Considering Divorce“ “In my many years as a divorce attorney, several relationship patterns play out repeatedly including the path of the Walkaway Wife who wants divorce,” says South Lyon Divorce Attorney Kathryn Wayne-Spindler. The attorneys of Kathryn Wayne-Spindler & Associates see the typical marriage-ending patterns of infidelity, drug abuse, and financial struggles that wreak havoc on marriages. But a less obvious pattern – labeled as Walkaway Wife Syndrome – is also quite common. The term Walkaway Wife Syndrome was made popular by marriage counselor, Michele Weiner-Davis MSW. She explains the process of emotional-breakdown that some Continue Reading…

Low Cost Divorce on a Budget

Save big bucks by keeping it civil There are entire sections of bookstores devoted to weddings on a budget. The advice ranges from baking your own cake to borrowing a dress. Everybody knows that modern American weddings are not cheap. “Couples that live in Milford, MI Zip Code 48381 spend between $23,045 and $38,408 on average for their wedding,” according to Cost of Wedding website. That said, not everyone has that kind of money for a ceremony and reception so brides and grooms are getting creative about making it happen with limited funds. It only stands to reason then, that many of Continue Reading…

Benefits of Filing First for Divorce

Every state has different divorce laws. Here in Michigan, although the law doesn’t automatically favor the party that files for divorce, there may be some advantages for filing first for divorce. Choice of Lawyer One of the first steps is finding a lawyer that is a good match. When seeking an attorney to represent them in a legal situation as personal as divorce, many people are looking not only at the attorney’s successes and track record, but at their personality as well. Take into account the attorney’s responsiveness and your comfort with the attorney’s staff and colleagues. “In some divorces, Continue Reading…

‘Tis the Season for Divorce

For everything there is a season. And for family law attorneys, the beginning of the year is the season for divorces. Kathryn Wayne-Spindler & Associates sees a significant jump in divorce filings in January and February. There are many, many reasons. Blame it on New Year’s Resolutions Some couples, that may have been unhappy for a while, decide to usher in the New Year with a life-changing resolution – divorce. Be prepared: Filing for divorce may seem like a fresh start. Just remember the process of divorcing can take time. Although the end goal of not being married may be Continue Reading…