What to Do If You Can’t Agree on Holiday Parenting Time

The holidays are meant to be joyful, but for many separated or divorced parents, they can also be a source of stress. Deciding how to share holiday parenting time isn’t always easy. If you and your co-parent are struggling to agree, you’re not alone—and you do have options.

At Spindler Law in Milford, Michigan, we often hear from parents who feel stuck when holiday plans fall apart. While it can be frustrating, there are practical steps you can take to reduce conflict and protect your children’s best interests.

Start with Open Communication

Sometimes the best solution is also the simplest: talk it through. Try to focus on your children’s needs rather than personal frustrations. Ask yourself, “What arrangement will allow them to enjoy the holidays the most?”

Look Back at Your Custody Order

Most custody agreements or parenting plans include holiday schedules. Review your order carefully—it may already provide guidance on how holidays should be divided. If the schedule feels unclear, this could be a sign that your plan needs to be updated.

Consider Mediation

If communication breaks down, mediation can help. A neutral mediator works with both parents to find a compromise. Mediation often resolves disputes faster—and with less cost—than going to court.

Seek Legal Guidance if Necessary

If an agreement still isn’t possible, an attorney can help you understand your rights and, if needed, file a motion with the court. It’s important not to wait until the last minute, as courts are especially busy during the holiday season.

At Spindler Law, we understand how emotionally charged holiday custody disputes can be. Our experienced family law attorneys help parents across Michigan navigate these challenges with compassion and clarity.

The holidays should be about making memories, not battling over schedules. If you and your co-parent can’t agree on holiday parenting time, contact Spindler Law today. We’ll help you find a solution that puts your children first and ensures the season is as peaceful as possible.